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valuableDIVORCE™
focuses on steps toward
reconstructing your family . Two
key ideas involve negative peace and positive peace.
Learning how to avoid conflict by choosing not to engage in
warfare or any direct tactics. is moving toward "negative"
peace.
The "positive" peace of actually working
together as a team will follow down the road. Right now, it's time
to put down the weapons. Other steps toward reconstructing your family include:
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Remind yourself what is most important:
the family
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Be willing to start at SQUARE ONE
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Understand what it is like to enter the middle of nowhere, with things going from bad to
worse, without a map
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Learn basic divorce SURVIVAL SKILLS
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Work together to find a new direction for the family
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Learn to make new rules while tolerating
frustration & confusion
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Two words: QUIET LEADERSHIP
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In the tension of
divorce's TUG-OF-WAR, learn how to drop the rope
The process of moving into a
valuableDIVORCE™
requires a curious combination of courage and restraint while
developing new relationship skills of compassionate
confrontation, radical acceptance, and value-guided commitment.
valuablePARENTING™
focuses on how to
effectively train your children according to your values and
standards, and deal with typical challenges families face today.
valuableMARRIAGE™
involves three key ingredients:
- GUTS
- IMAGINATION
- COMMITMENT
Steps toward meaningful re-connection include:
- Become curiously aware of what's
gone MIA (missing in action)
- Reflect fondly on times when your
relationship TEAMWORK shined
- Be willing to experience, identify
and express your DEEP TRUTH
- Learn how to RE-VALUE your
marriage
- Improve your relationship IQ (rIQ™)
- Becomes well-versed in LIVING OUT
LOUD (LOL)
- Show up and prepare to make new
memories
- Gain confidence in your ability to
stand up for yourself without putting the other person down
- Prepare to move
differently inside your relationship so that your relationship
can do what it is designed to do - meet your most important
emotional needs
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